You just got engaged and the wedding planning frenzy is in full swing. It’s going to be your year, full of showers, parties and a lot of preparation all leading up to the most important day of your life. There’s just one minor problem. Your closest girlfriend is getting married this year too. At first, the thought of sharing your special year together seems sweet. But, then it starts to get a little competitive.
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Before you know it, you are competing to send out invitations first and there could even be a little blue hair dye involved a la Kate Hudson and Anne Hathaway in Bride Wars. So if you find yourself in a race to the altar with your BFF, follow these tips for how to avoid a real life bride war.
DO save the date second
In the movie Bride Wars, best friends Emma and Liv settle for the same wedding date to secure the venue of their dreams. Emma sends out her save the date first, starting a drop down drag out war that plays out through the rest of the flick. So what should you do if you get engaged second, but want to set your date first? Think twice. It may not be an official Emily Post decree, but unwritten girl code states that “she who is first to get the rock, should be the first to take the walk.” Save yourself hard feelings from your bestie, and try to set your wedding date after hers.
DON’T use the same colors
Of course every girl has their own vision of the perfect wedding, right down to the color of a bridesmaid dress. But there are only so many colors in the rainbow and on the rack at the local bridal shop. So if your best friend announces she’s chosen the perfect shade of pink for her wedding palette, dare to be different. Not only will you avoid hurt feelings, you can be sure that no one will be comparing your wedding to hers.
DO coordinate calendars
If you and your gal pal have already planned your weddings for the same year, try not to plan all of your showers, parties and bachelorette parties back to back. Chances are a lot of your friends will be attending both weddings. Don’t clutter their social calendars. Get together and plot your event dates with enough room for your guests to breathe in between.
DON’T create a competition
Your friend is taking dance lessons with her groom to be to prepare for the first dance. Resist the urge to start arranging a choreographed flash mob with your wedding party to rival her performance. Resist the urge to go bigger and better. Instead of creating a competition, play on the same team: Team Bride!
Follow these simple rules and you are sure to avoid any bridal battles with your BFF. Most importantly, enjoy your time planning together and sharing all the moments that you’ll remember for a lifetime.
Author: Cami Hadley is a movie, television and entertainment aficionado for the cable television blog on cable.tv. She is also in the process of planning her own wedding, a small destination wedding set for this fall.